Born this way so we Can be who we R. Part 2

In the firestorms on Facebook, one has never stirred my emotions such as this.

I have been trying to come up with a response to what people have written in response to my friend writing as their status "Cis-gender pride!" For those that do not know for Cis-gendered are those who identify with the gender and sex characteristics of which they were born. So for example I am a cis-gender male.

I really do not understand how someone can say that people can have posts like Gay Pride or Black Pride or Trans Pride these are fine, but when someone puts up they have Straight Pride, White Pride or Cis-gender Pride these are wrong and those who feel this way should be ashamed to have such feelings. Many things support these feelings:

1. Freedom of speech granted by the first amendment of the Constitution. So people have say essentially what ever they so chose.
2. Why should not a person be allowed to be proud of who they are, who they were born?
3. Equality can not be had by limiting others just because they from the majority group.

Why is there this double standard? Yes some may say that Straights, Whites or Cis-gendered have oppressed their opposites but just because of that fact does not mean that these people should be criticized or ridiculed because they are proud of who they are. How can someone preach of equality and yet put others down? It does not fix any thing only perpetuates the discomfort and harsh feelings amongst people.

Pride: the state or feeling of being proud.
Please people celebrate your uniqueness and stop always having to be so PC to where we are so compartmentalized that we have nothing to make us common to each other. Just be proud of being a person in the world no matter where on the various spectrum you may lie.  Take pride in your work, take pride your daily activities, take pride in your thoughts. Take pride in YOU!

So I would to say that I step down from my soap box and hope that others do to in order to have some semblance of peace.


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Born this way so we Can be who we R. Part 1

This quote has been bothered me for some time, “What you do in your bedroom is your business.” It makes it seem like being gay, lesbian or bisexual is something that you only do in your bedroom. I don’t go to work in my bedroom. I don’t go shopping in my bedroom. I don’t adopt children in my bedroom.  I don’t buy a house in my bedroom. I don’t go to the hospital in my bedroom. I don’t walk on the sidewalk with my partner in my bedroom. So tell me, why I am denied these things, because of the something I do, only in my bedroom?

Obviously those who are in power and deny me these simple liberties know that a sexual orientation reaches into every aspect of life. My sexual orientation is a part of me and is with me every day all day.  I have in these ten years come to the conclusion that attempting to hide some part about you is pointless. You are beginning these connections and relationship on a lie. That is not a productive way of conducting one’s self.  And from that moment on, you have to make sure that you cover that lie for the days, weeks, months or even years  that you are in that relationship.  I can understand someone wanting to keep their life in some privacy but just do not lie. It only hurts your fellow LGB brothers and sisters and pushes them back in the fight.

My Trans friends are probably feeling that I have left them out but they are just getting their own section. Their fight is unique in the fact it is fought on even more fronts. They are fighting family, society, religion and the LGB community. Trans people have been there every step of the way fighting and marching right along with their LGB brothers and sisters for simple rights; respect and acceptance. They are often left out of legislation, out of the conversation, out of the light, when it comes to protection under the law.

Many conservatives can grasp their head around being cis-LGB because they are still prescribing to the birth gender binary. In their eyes, God has crated diversity within these people. They on the other hand view transgender people wrong because this group is supposedly saying that God fucked up. He put this person into the wrong body and now they are trying to play God in “fixing it”. I, however have to say that God, did not make a mistake on these people. Yes they wear born with these bodies that do not seem to match up with the mind, but they are born to teach the world to acceptance. They were born to make the world better for those who come after them. They were born to be the pioneers in this social world to show that change is possible even when people think that it is not. God, Yahweh, Allah, Buddha, Mom, Grandma or ever you may call your higher power that you go to for solace and strength loves you with all that they can and wishes you nothing but happiness in the years in time and space that you alive.

When we bring together these groups, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, ally and the multitudes of people who fit amongst the gender and sexual orientation spectrum they have to unite. Unite amongst their individual letter, unite under the spectrum. We have this flag that we have united under made of the three primary colors and first three secondary colors from which all other colors to paint the flags and symbols that represent each of us. I have never called it just a gay pride flag but just the PRIDE flag. Its colors for so many and for so long have meant there is a safe place or area where we can gather and celebrate each other’s company.  We can teach and educate our own to then teach the masses about us. We do not live a particular lifestyle or have an agenda other than to live on this planet and make it a bit better than when we were born.

Damontae R. January 02122011 Reposted with permission  on 04/26/2011

Todays songs are in the title

Born This Way -LG
We R Who We R-KRS

If home is where the heart is, then we're all just f*cked

When the words that were meant to comfort a person through sadness are taken into the context of expressing other emotions, nothing more can be done than accept that the words were taken the wrong way and the person who received them is flattered in falsehood. All others who are hurt by them should really think internally and examine the great scheme of things and believe that  the person would not hurt them. But, if they chose to believe a person that has hurt them time and time again then it is time to release them from the burden of being friends.

Part of this human condition is to live with the choices that we make and their consequences. To live with consequences of greed is a hard one to bare. Also to wonder when the other shoe will drop and squash the dreams of the future. Having no coverage to offset the burden that may rear its ugly life long head into the picture is a scary thought. I was just going through this lowly existence, but then was gullible and open and got hurt. To lose that, which makes a person, to someone who treats it like it means nothing as garbage hurts in the worst way. The feelings of stupidity and failure are overwhelming. I have had some the great creatures of the world standing at my right hand to guide me through the paths and mazes of emotions. They will receive the gifts of their great consoling and preservation efforts in attempt to help gather and process the nights vomit. Its pungent odor is near unbearable and yet they are there to pick up the words, the parts, the liquid, and the indistinguishable matter to attempt reform the person who was once in existence.

I, the person, must aid one’s self in coming back together because without the self preservation nothing can be done. No one person can attempt it alone. Surrounding ones self with many who may show their talents. One person does not possess all that is needed to reassemble oneself. One can also not depend on one person to obtain all of these gifts. For that is exactly what they are, gifts, one given to some and maybe more than one given to others, but never a perfect collection in one. If we go to one seeking all of the gifts we will exhaust them and bring their life force out of them and leave only the empty shell.

Through this process we must trim the extras like a piece of steak before it is cooked. The excess fat that will make the piece greasy is trimmed to a more refined looking and tasting steak. Even though we may think that the extra fat will add flavor it really ruins the look, feel and taste of the steak into a dog grade of meat, not worthy of much care or consideration. I don’t want to be a piece of meat heading for the grinder to be mixed up in the land of the lost and forever being remembered at the cut far below the best.

We must come together as a joint unit of people and support each other, love each other. We can not allow for the people we have adopted to be thrown side and neglected. We must love and nurture each other in the families that have been created through the powers of the heart and mind.

Today's song 27 by Fall Out Boy
 DRJ created 06092009 reposted 04132011

3s of Me

Names I go by:
1. Damontae
2. D
3. Watermelondrea

Places I've lived:
1. Illinois
2. Wisconsin
3. n/a

Favorite drinks:
1. milk
2.Mountain Dew
3. wine

Television shows I watch regularly:
1.Golden girls
2. cake boss
3. Reba

Movies I've seen multiple times:
1. A Walk to Remember
2. The Preachers Wife
3. Madeas Family Reunion

Bands/artists you've seen play live:
1. Christina Aguilera
2. Ellis
3. Zwan

Places I've been:
1. Minnesota
2. Missiouri
3. Georgia

Places I want to visit:
1. California
2. Sweden
3. New York

AMAZING experiences:
1. Road trips with friends
2. my first bf
3. random moments with friends

Last meals:
1. beef brisket sandwich
2. a burger
3. a cinnamon bun

Favorite foods:
1. french toast
2. Mac n cheese
3. chicken

Include in my salad:
1. lettuce
2. feta cheese
3. cucumbers

Include on my pizza:
1. cheese
2. red pepper flakes
3. pepperoni

Items within reach:
1. wallet
2. cell phone
3. many books

People who call me regularly:
1. Mom
2. David
3. ?

Things I'm looking forward to:
1. grad school
2. getting a full-time job
3. not haaving debt

Three Celebrity Crushes:
1. Bobby Canavale
2. Jesse Metcalfe
3. Ben Affleck

Three favorite songs:
1. Lift Me Up- Christina Aguilera
2. Strange-Reba McEntire
3.Disloyal Order of the Water Buffaloes-Fall Out Boy


Well cant forget a song that is fitting of the title
3-Britney Spears

My Everything

Today I learned that even though the practice has been legal since my mom was 3months old that some Republicans in Mississippi, my grandfather's home state, think that interracial marriage should be illegal.Article

Loving v. Virginia, decided on in June 1967, struck down laws prohibiting marriage between interracial couples. What a fitting name that this couple has Loving. Why do people feel that they can say who can and can not love each other. As long as everyone involved is capable of understanding what is going on and can express that in some way why not. The Loving's were married until Richard was killed in a car accident in 1975, Mildred passed away in 2008. On June 12, 2007 she spoke about the landmark case on its 40th anniversary. She ended with is paragraph where she spoke on her marriage and the issues surrounding it as well as same sex marriage which was and still is the hot button issue in the realm of marriage.
"My generation was bitterly divided over something that should have been so clear and right. The majority believed that what the judge said, that it was God's plan to keep people apart, and that government should discriminate against people in love. But I have lived long enough now to see big changes. The older generation's fears and prejudices have given way, and today's young people realize that if someone loves someone, they have a right to marry. 

Surrounded as I am now by wonderful children and grandchildren, not a day goes by that I don't think of Richard and our love, our right to marry, and how much it meant to me to have that freedom to marry the person precious to me, even if others thought he was the "wrong kind of person" for me to marry. I believe all Americans, no matter their race, no matter their sex, no matter their sexual orientation, should have that same freedom to marry. Government has no business imposing some people's religious beliefs over others. Especially if it denies people's civil rights.
 
I am still not a political person, but I am proud that Richard's and my name is on a court case that can help reinforce the love, the commitment, the fairness, and the family that so many people, black or white, young or old, gay or straight seek in life. I support the freedom to marry for all. That's what Loving, and loving, are all about." -Mildred Loving

Maybe one day I can have a courage that Mildred and Richard Loving had to the stand up and celebrate their love for each other. They did not let the legal system force them into hiding or make them separate just because some legislator did not want them to be together. I have to agree with Mildred Loving and say thing I should allowed to marry someone who is precious to me either if other think that he is the "wrong kind of person". One day, maybe I will find that person.

I have chosen to include the song that I want play at my wedding. It mentions nothing about the gender of the person singing or been sung to. It can be used for everyone   My Everything 98 Degrees

Its a new generation of party people.

I have been at this thing called life for about 26 years if you consider life starting at conception. If life it is life at birth its 25 any ways. It only seems to get harder.

I have seen this new generation come into their own. They are challenging people and becoming leaders and are not afraid as maybe my moms generation was of coming out when in middle or high school. They are Pioneering the way for their younger brothers and sisters and children to have a better life than what was afforded to LGBTQA people before them. I hope they continue to inspire and make their parents, friends, past, present and future LGBTQA brothers and sisters
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