Stories of the Unsung Broken Heart

This is my recent playlist
Happy
Freakum Dress
Super Bass
Mr Know It All
Everthing Fades away
Someone Like You
Please Don't Leave Me
Hold it Against Me

Just live naturally

 Read this article and then the post will make sense NY TIMES


That was an interesting article. I think that a lot of people need take a hard looks at there relationships and have candid conversations about how they will proceed in the relationship. It will be very interesting this semester as I embark on a family and couples counseling class and we discuss situation where people relationships have reached a point to where it is take the time to work on this or break up. I definitely have come away from reading this article to think of relationships in the future.

I know that when, my ex and I tried to have this conversation I got scared and clammed up, which is of course not good. Things can and for us went downhill from there.

For today's song I chose Affirmation by Savage Garden

Black Gay Men and Marriage

Tonight I was reading a great blog post at http://www.blackgaymensblog.com/2011/07/04/black-gay-men-gay-marriage/
and there was a post on their which set something off in me. below is the comment and then my reply


Posted on 7/4/11
I enjoy this blog and the topics that appear from time to time, however this is one issue I am dead set against. Marriage is spiritual, religious, and sacred. It was designed strictly for a man and a woman. I not out nor will I ever be but I don’t understand why gays continue to “push the envelope”. We’ve come so far and we’ll get more rights but why antagonize str8 ppl to mimic everything they do? Black gay men on the whole aren’t for gay marriage and for good reason.
Gay marriage just isn’t practical for us. What do we need it for? The majority of us can’t sustain relationships long enough for it to reach the marriage mark, so it makes no sense for the majority of black gay men to remotely get interested in thinking about marriages. I wouldn’t keep someone from having one , but I just don’t think its something black gay men will ever get on board with now or in the future. Maybe more so with white men, but amongst us, its not all that common.


XXXXX,

Do NOT group this black gay man in with you. I may not be in a relationship, but should the day come where I want to spend the rest of my life with a man who was sent to me by God. I will standing in front that lord promising the love, honor and cherish this gift that he has given to me.

Marriage originally had nothing to do with the church and everything to do with wealth. There was property and money to be gained when a man took someone's daughter to marry. Today is all about various civil rights that are afforded under marriage as well as the legitimacy to the world are a loving union between two people, not just a man and a woman.

For this Black gay man, I want to have a long lasting relationship and it is people who perpetuate the stereotype that black men can not maintain relationships is why it continues to plague us to this day. Marriage should be extended to all; Black, White, Latino, gay, straight, bisexual whatever. This black gay man and many other black gay men are in full support of marriage equality and look forward to making that commitment to their man one day.

For the song of the day I will post a video that I implore you to watch The Edge of Glory

My Bucket List as of 6/25/11

1.       Get a bachelor’s degree
2.       Get my first career job
3.       Adopt a child
4.       Visit all 50 states
5.       Visit Sweden
6.       Sing a song to someone
7.       Get my master’s degree
8.       Work professionally at UW-Whitewater
9.       Become a university chancellor
10.   Get married
11.   Own my three dreams cars
12.   Own my dream home
13.   Lose 100lbs
14.   Perform in a drag show
15.   Visit Las Vegas with friends
16.   Go to a NYC Pride
17.   Get an honorary degree
18.   Start a LGBT youth home
19.   Start a LGBT community center
20.   Learn to swim
21.   Read all of the books I own
22.   Read a book series
23.   Be on an HGTV show
24.   Meet an actor from a favorite TV show
25.   Meet a newscaster
26.   Teach a class
27.   Fly on a plane
28.   Make a meal from field to table
29.   Meet a favorite singer
30.   Be elected to an position
31.   Have something I made put on display or built
32.   See Backstreet Boys in concert
33.   See Christina Aguilera in concert
34.   Visit  “the TV” street
35.   Get a tattoo
36.   Have braids
37.   Design a room in someone else’s house
38.   Dress a friend
39.   Take classes in interior design
40.   Take cooking classes
41.   Own a Kitchen Aid Mixer and at least 6 attachments
42.   Confront a bully from high school
43.   Have a family reunion with all of my blood siblings
44.   Have a meaningful talk with my dad
45.   Talk more with my grandma
46.   Send my uncle a Christmas gift
47.   Visit Vicksburg, MS
48.   Visit San Francisco, CA
49.   Visit the Clinton Presidential Library
50.   Visit the Reagan Presidential Library
51.   Visit the Carter Presidential Library
52.   Visit the Ford Presidential Library
53.   Visit the Lincoln Presidential Library
54.   Visit the Hoover Presidential Library
55.   Visit the Kennedy Presidential Library
56.   Visit the F. Roosevelt Presidential Library
57.   Visit the Truman Presidential Library
58.   Visit the GW Bush Presidential Library
59.   Visit the GHW Bush Presidential Library
60.   Visit the Nixon Presidential Library
61.   Visit the Eisenhower Presidential Library
62.   Visit the Johnson Presidential Library
63.   Visit Mt Vernon
64.   Visit the Henry Ford Museum
65.   Visit my friend Kevin in Maine
66.   Visit Washington DC
67.   Visit Dollywood
68.   Visit Puerto Rico
69.   Visit Little Rock Central High School
70.   Be able to let go of people
71.   See Fall Out Boy in Concert
72.   See Maroon5 in concert
73.   Take a tour of a food plant
74.   Take a tour of an auto plant
75.   Buy a designers piece
76.   Passionately kiss a celebrity
77.   Do a week long road trip
78.   Get Ed. D.

Solstice of a year gone by

Day of Qutoes
 
Out of darkness and into the sun, but I won't forget the place I come. I gotta take a risk , take a chance, make a change and breakaway -"Breakaway", Kelly Clarkson

Love, love is such crazy thing. Never understood the way I'm was suppose to feel. Is this love for real? "Love Is Such a Crazy Thing" Pink

I guess that you saw, what nobody could see. You found me!-   "You Found Me" Kelly Clarkson

Frozen inside without your touch without your love. Darling only you are the life among the dead!-"Bring MeTo Life" Evanescence

Cuz I can promise u, baby what u see izs what u get.-   "What U See (Is What U Get) " Britney Spears

What ever you want from me, I'm givin you everything. I'm your baby tonight "I'm Your Baby Tonight" Whitney Houston

"No one said anything when I came out! Where's my parade?    Nelson Glassman-Rainbow Boys

Do you believe in life after love?-Believe-Cher

She said the battle's almost won, and we're only several miles from the sun  The Sun-Maroon5

Im on the edge with you

June is National Gay Pride month: Put this as your status if you know or love someone who is gay. A wish that people soon understand that being gay is not a disease or a choice! People who are gay are not looking for a cure but for acceptance and equal rights. Many won't copy and paste this. Will you make it you status for at least one hour? Promote love and acceptance! Stop the hate!

 I decided to  have this be today's posting since I am leaving for Nashville's pride today. 

I am also posting a video. LadyGaga's "The Edge of Glory". I don't know what to say about this video. She is not doing much in it. Kinda dancing around like a fan might to the song. I not sure what she was going for in this video. I could have thought of three different video scenarios to use. A) a thelma and louise kinda deal. B) a couple about to have sex for the first time. C) make the video be to the fans and show concert clips or her our talking with fans. 

Jesus is the new black

I have been listening to Lady Gaga's album "Born This Way" It is interesting. Quite a few religious(Christian) references with songs like "Bloody Mary" and Black Jesus+Amen Fashion and of course the hit , "Judas".

There is a song called "Fashion of His Love". I would not be surprised to here this song with some lyric tweaking in one of those new innovative hip churches. That plays mostly rock and pop influenced music during the service instead of chants or traditional hymns. When I read the lyrics, they read like many Christian songs, especially since this new wave of Christianity came about.

The Edge of Glory is a few minor tweaks as well would be part of the summer services.

The album is seems to have ushered in the 1980's revival into popular culture. Electronica was on the rise as the synthesizers are all over the place in this song and anoint every song on the album. Most of the club beats have been released to the public in the slow leak of 4 songs off of the album before its May 23rd release. Lady Gaga has  a large following who will sway and jump to these tracks as they listen through this sophomore album. I think Lady Gaga and her "little monsters" will have a lasting effect on the second decade of the 21st century.

Edge of Glory
Fashion of His Love