Coming out, what are we suppose to exactly do when coming out? No two coming outs even when it is the same person coming out are the same. When a person tells this significant person that they are gay they are doing so to feel at ease with this person. Often the person being told will make it into it being an event all about them.
By the time a gay individual has come to the point of coming out to even one other person, they have gone through much turmoil within. To finally get to the point of being comfortable with being gay happens at a different time for each person. Some people will find them selves attracted to a man and just know. That’s it, I am gay; done. Many people will not have such luck. It may be a one week, one month, one year or one decade process. Many will venture down the many avenues and streets of the massiveness of “Gay Dom”. Self acceptance is key for everyone, because with out it there is no way anyone will accept you for you. Self acceptance must happen at is own pace because it must be truly felt, deep in the heart.
Once self acceptance is achieved, it comes to that first time when one feels that a weight has been lifted. The world will now have this person who doesn’t have live in a closet and can be free. Some may notice a confidence boost and wonder what happened. Generally, there is nothing physically changed. Maybe just a posture change or a mood of contentment.
Being brave a big part of being open and out, with the world. This is by no means flaunting it. People need to get off of this shit about by being open about being gay, that it is flaunting it. One is just saying that they are no longer living a lie and are comfortable with and love them selves for truth that they are.
Why is watching a football game a straight thing or decorating a room to actually look nice with flowers and such, paraphernalia of being gay. They are things that people do, and enjoy. I do find it an oxymoron that the most macho of sports evolves men falling on top of each other, slapping each other on the butts and having hand literally touching another's testicles. Some have tried to explain the slaps as it doesn’t mean anything unless you enjoy it. My defense is that the pat is a symbol of a job well done. So would there not be enjoyment in that. Someone is acknowledging your hard work and effort. I happen to be a fan of the Chicago Bears and will cheer for them when they make an awesome play and/or score a touchdown. Sometimes others may have a stronger reaction than I but it makes me happy when I see other reveling in a great victory such as; any time the Bears will win over the Packers. The energy in that room is quite electric. I also enjoy decorating and being like a personal shopper for my friends. I don’t mind helping someone pick an outfit or a few new pieces. I don’t see these as gay things to do. They are services and/or jobs that I like doing. I know straight men that do these things as well. Some of them will not admit it, thinking they will be thought of as gay or sometimes will joke about it. I do not see why being gay is a such a funny joke.
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