DaMontae and Austin (My rainbow brotha)

Austin met some months ago when he started working at the RCF. I did not  know that the new guy with the long hair would become a cherish friend. I remember thinking "Yay there is actually another guy working here. He's not bad to look at either:)" We began to talk more as the shifts went on. He told me about his wanting to open a food truck on day, about his being in seminary. I was cautious about talking about myself when he mentioned seminary because of long rugged relationship between LGBTQ+ people and the various churches. 

Austin turns out to be quite the awesome ally to the community and I love him for that. It was more awesome when he began to let down his hair (metaphorically, only seen it down once) and I began to see his sense of humor and spirit that burned inside him. We have had each others backs when it has come to client issues. He saved me from nearly getting fired from work. We share a love of lemon bars, burgers, table tops games and many other things. We were totally work spouses. I will be forever grateful for his friendship, compassion, humility. I hope to be the first customer at the burger truck.

No Time to Die

This song has gotten me through some of my recent difficult times. My break up has left me a little bewildered. Billie Eilish you may be under 20 but you can song with such passion and deepness. I hope your 19 years has been not filled pain and your just have a soulful voice. I do not know what my life will be yet but  I know that there is NO TIME TO DIE

Coming back to this after three years. So much has changed, I don't where to begin. I have changed jobs twice, graduated from UWPlatteville. Gotten married. And changed a many perspective on life. More to come
Adele When We Were Young

The 27th Year

Picture it , Waukegan, 1985, a beautiful young peasant boy was  born. As I reflect over this 27th year i can not help but to think about the roller coaster that that it was. My birthday nearly coincides with the end of the year. I get to turn over a new year of life and a calendar year in about a month's time.

I have obtained through hard work  and perseverance the job that a truly wanted and a master's degree. I held out working at some places that I would rather not have worked and places that provides me with knowledge and were if great comfort during one of the lows of the year.  I witness to several of my friends joining in marriage. They began a new chapter of their lives as husband & wife. I witnessed the overwhelming joy of the United States  Supreme Court's decision to strike down pieces of the Defense of Marriage Act Allowing for same sex marriage to be federally recognized also to see the 14th state allow same sex marriage which meant that one third of the   population lives in address where same sex couples can be legally wed.

I met some new friends that helping to start movements to change the quality of life for people in Wisconsin.
I have experienced the loss of a parent. My father Leonard Spicer Sr. was only 45 years old when he delayed from earth and I am wondered what I will do yo help keep my driving in contact with either through the grieving process. Thought the next year's as some of the milestones odd life occurred in m my siblings lives. I will try my best to be there.  Help where I  can and provide comfort and strength.

 have seen the loss of friends not through physical death   but through relationship death and revelations  that certain people can not be in life as they are to toxic abs simply do not understand the complexities that are not reasons to get rid of friends.   I know that soon I would have been part of the public shaming before been cast away.

I hope that year 28 will be better than test 27.  I really do wish that my wish that I made at 11: 11 on 12/31/12 happens. The fates, God have two months.  I hope for more clarity and peace this year.   I hope for health and love for the world and  that somethings get better. I hope to have made a difference in lives of friends or someone that I maybe was not aware of in the 27th year and that      28th    well be even more productive and purposeful.

Kelly Clarkson-Behind These Hazel Eyes
 Kelly Clarkson-(What doesn't Kill you) Stronger
Christina Aguilera-Blank Page

DaMontae and Palle

My friend Palle Pedersen. I met him while canvassing for Shelly Moore who was running for State Senate in Wisconsin. We had a great time going through the neighborhoods of Hudson and New Richmond and Hammond Wisconsin( cities I never knew existed) trying to inform voters about the candidate. Many people were supportive but many of them were not. It was the most time I had ever spent outside in the heat of summer since I was small. Palle had great stories about going to houses under pseudonyms of Peter or Paul since many could not pronounce Palle, which rhymes with Fella with a P. J I was honored to attend the celebration of his marriage after only knowing him for a short while. He is awesome and I have been so grateful for his friendship!Congrats I know that you will make a great dad!!

The Sun - Maroon5

DaMontae and Pha

 

Pha, you have been my go to guy for so many things; relationship advice, friendship advice, and life issues. I am so glad that you were at UW-Platteville when I really needed a friend. We have bonded and grown in the shared experience of being queer men of color and advocating for what is best for us and our community even when it was not always the easy route.

We have shared so many trips together. The most memorable was our trip to San Francisco. I am grateful that you shared your graduation trip with me. It has been a great experience getting to know the multifaceted person that you are. I hope that in your life that you are blessed with the family and happiness that you deserve. You have worked so hard in your life and deserve to sit and enjoy the fruits of that 

 You are the kind of friend that I hope that I will keep in my life for many years and trips to come.

Today's song is We Found Love-Rihanna It was a song that got everyone to the dance floor all 6 night we went to party in the Castro!